Grief and Loss

When attempting to make sense of the untimely passing of a person who was much loved even through his challenges, how does one separate the circumstance from the loss ?

How does one reconcile the shock of death with the manner in which that death came about ?

And how can one handle the tears of sadness, from the wife and six beautiful children of the deceased -- the youngest still a toddler -- without breaking down oneself ?

I don't have the answers.

I don't know if I ever will.